CARE FOR THE FAMILY/FRIEND CAREGIVER
I don't know where this comes from. If you do, please let
me know so that I can attribute it!
You are giving physical and emotional care to a cancer patient. The following
list is meant as a reminder that caregivers themselves deserve good care.
- Take the time to care for yourself. Follow the Golden Rule for caregivers:
DO UNTO YOURSELF AS CAREFULLY AND AS KINDLY AS YOU DO UNTO YOUR PATIENT.
- Try to emphasize "I WOULD LIKE TO..." instead of acting always according to
"I should..." and "I have to..."
- Realize that at times it is normal to feel helpless and frustrated,
and that such feelings should not make you feel guilty or ashamed.
- Be able to say "no" as well as "yes".
- Believe it is more effective to change the way you behave with others rather
than trying to change their behaviour and reactions to you.
- Have at least one special person to turn to as a source of support,
reassurance and direction.
- Be able to accept as well as give support, encouragement and praise.
- Have a "quiet place" where you can enjoy a special interest - reading,
music, gardening, sewing, etc.
- Make use of it on a REGULAR basis because you deserve "time off",
and you need to rally your own emotional energy.
- Believe that caring and just "being there" are sometimes more important
- Even though a person you love is seriously ill, laughter and play
area part of being alive; try to make them a part of the patient's life,
- Find positive ways to deal with feelings of anger, frustration and
- At the end of each evening, deliberately go over the experiences of
the day and find at least one good moment